Friday Links January 23

It's been a long week. A really long week. Go read some things.

Friday Links January 23 |

"On The Fetishisation of Gay Men by Women in the Slash Community," from The Mary Sue. "Specifically, these men indicated that straight or bisexual women had repeatedly asked overly personal questions about their sex lives, treated them like adorable puppies instead of humans, and attempted to co-opt the gay male experience or even elevate allies over actual gay men." Don't do that.

"The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up," from Modern Mrs. Darcy. I keep finding people talking about Marie Kondo's The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up and it fascinates and scares me in equal measure. Maybe one of these days I'll actually pick up the book, though it seems unlikely right now. It might be worth it if I could figure out how the heck to organize my dresser drawers in a way that actually works.

"Before They Were Scientists: Emily Graslie," from Your Wild Life. One of the things I appreciate about Emily is her honesty, which shines through in this interview. That isn't to say her life is an open book, but when she's asked a question she answers it honestly. But my favourite thing in this interview is actually something she quotes Hank Green as saying. I hadn't seen it before, which is surprising given how well Tumblred Hank tends to be. "You don’t owe your former self anything, you’re not that person anymore." I think maybe I needed to hear that right now.

"Please Don't Punish Yourself" from Danielle LaPorte. Someone shared this on a day when I needed to read it. "It’s gruelling enough to be betrayed when you have been over-loyal; to feel like an imposter at the pretty party; to be seemingly alone in your looping fixations (you’re never alone); to feel like the star ship flew off and orphaned you in a cabbage patch of zygotes to be adopted by humans who can’t understand you. This stuff of earth, you know, it’s a lot of things, but it’s anything but easy."

"The Sunday Home," from WhatWouldGwynethDo. We've sort of being doing this for years. We don't do great at the unplugging thing but we try to make weekend more "Internet-lite." A couple of weeks ago we did all the all cleaning, meal planning and shopping on Saturday and we had nothing at all that needed to be done on Sunday. It was weird and wonderful in equal measure.