She managed to imply that she was somehow better than any woman who chose to not have children, or could not have them for some reason.

If Moms had to deal with what childfree women do on a daily basis, she might just find some of the empathy she claims to have.

I am questioned about when i will have kids. Why I don’t have kids. I’m told by complete strangers I will change my mind, or I will regret my choice as I age alone and unloved.

Having a child is no guarantee they will be the end all, be all of your life. They are a unique and special human being with their own hopes and dreams. And in spite of all the love and support you give them, they may abandon you when you need them most. Just look at your local aged care center to see how many kids “take care of” mom or dad in their old age.

I chose not to have children because I have severe health problems that would likely be worse in the next generation. How could I, in good conscience, have a child that would be saddled with debilitating conditions?

How could I, in good conscience, have a child I would be unable to properly nurture and support because of my medical conditions?

I don’t think it makes me less of a woman, as Kim implies. I think it makes me an empathetic human being who would spare another the suffering I live with on a daily basis.

If that makes me selfish or wrong or makes me “miss out” by her narrow standards, I am okay with that. I know I did the right thing.

I do have some sympathy for some of the people who loudly protest that they need to have children. After writing this post and reading others like it heard tales from others who were told things like they didn’t need their jobs b/c they didn’t have kids to support, or they didn’t need a raise. Women who were told that they weren’t “real” women because they hadn’t had children. That would make me loud and growly.

If we stopped judging each other’s choices I think a lot of the yelling would stop, on both sides. Or at least it would in my fantasyland.